Small Steps, Big Difference
Take Your Next Step
You don’t need all the answers right now, you just need to take one step.
One action, one healing choice can bring clarity - like a flashlight on a dark path.
Things will start making more sense, with each baby step.
Calm in the Chaos is the first in a growing collection of guided journals designed to support women through every stage of healing after betrayal.
Find clarity and a calm mind in the Midst of the Chaos
Betrayal affects far more than your emotions—it can leave your thoughts scattered, your heart exhausted, and your mind overwhelmed.
Writing can be a powerful way to process what you're experiencing, recognize patterns, untangle confusing emotions, and create space to hear God's truth more clearly.
My first guided journal is thoughtfully designed to gently guide you with biblical reflection, meaningful prompts, and plenty of space to honestly write your story at your own pace.
No pressure.
No timeline.
Just a gentle place to pause, calm your mind, and move one step closer to freedom, wisdom, and hope.
Support &
Ministries
Finding the right support truly feels like a candle in the darkness.
Pure Desire Ministries is a Christian organization based in Oregon that is dedicated to helping people find healing from the effects of sexual addiction, pornography, and betrayal. Through biblically grounded teaching, support groups, counseling resources, podcasts, YouTube, books, and online courses, Pure Desire equips people to pursue lasting freedom, restoration, and healthy relationships.
One of Pure Desire's greatest strengths is its structured support groups. Their Betrayal & Beyond groups provide a safe, compassionate environment where women impacted by a spouse's sexual addiction or infidelity can process their pain, gain understanding, and find hope alongside others who truly understand. They also offer groups and resources for men seeking recovery, couples pursuing restoration, and leaders who want to establish healing ministries within their churches.
Having personally participated in and later facilitated Pure Desire's Betrayal & Beyond ministry for many years, I have witnessed the life-changing impact of these groups on countless women and families.
The turning point for my husband was when he joined a 7 Pillars group, which is also offered by Pure Desire Ministries.
Our (old) church in Everett, WA (New Life Foursquare) still runs these groups and occasionally offers conferences or additional Pure Desire courses. I’m excited that the women’s ministry has recently started groups in Spanish. This is the church ministry that helped me and that I ended up leading with for over 15 years, so it is dear to my heart. Find out more about their in person (local) groups here: https://newlifeeverett.org/recovery/
The Pure Desire group options are growing and available all over the world now. Here is a link to their church led support groups: https://www.puredesire.org/groups/local
I really can’t say enough good things about this ministry, I so fully appreciate them and love so many people who work with this ministry and have been helped by it.
Even though I will be offering my own books and support options, I will continue to refer women (and their husbands) to this ministry when they are ready for more intensive support.
Be sure to check out their videos on YouTube, and take a look at their online resources.
Prodigals International is a Christ-centered ministry located in Washington state that specializes in helping individuals, couples, and families recover from the effects of sexual brokenness through a unique Christian 12-step approach. Their ministry emphasizes authentic community, mentor relationships, accountability, and long-term transformation rooted in God's grace.
For women impacted by a spouse’s sexual addiction, or infidelity, their Partners in Process ministry offers mentor-led support groups, one-on-one mentoring, coaching, and practical resources designed to help women find their voice, understand betrayal trauma, and discover that they are not responsible for their partner's choices. Both online and in-person groups are available in many locations.
I have met a couple of the people involved with this ministry and they are wonderful people. I’ve gone to conferences led by them, and have friends who have benefited from their counseling. They recently added an app you can check out on their site. I’m excited to see them grow.
Here is a link to their website page that offers many former conference recordings you can listen to:
https://prodigalsinternational.org/prodigals-podcasts-conference-audio-recordings/
Prodigals International
Finding a safe place to heal is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself after betrayal.
Unfortunately, many women discover that finding an experienced Christian counselor or an in-person support group for sexual addiction and betrayal trauma can be difficult. The good news is that the ministries listed above offer excellent online support and resources, no matter where you live.
My hope is to grow this page into a trusted directory of biblical support and resources for women and couples across the country.
If you know of an excellent Christian counselor, support group, ministry, or church that offers betrayal-related support—or if your church is interested in starting a group—I would love to hear from you. Together, we can help more people find the support they need.
